Gotten quite a few surprises these couple of days, all pleasant!=)
First of all, thanks for all the well wishes that i've gotten from all of you on my 28th Day of Life Gift (it's a description i picked up from a novel, nicely reflecting the fact that being alive is the greatest gift). Really appreciate the kind thoughts and gestures. =>
Thanks to mei for arranging the little get together with hong and jia. =) Haven't seen them for nearly 2 years. Mei didn't even let me in the bag that they are joining us for dinner on tues. Yes mei, you caught me off-balanced there. I was really surprised to see jia strolling into Coffee Bean at Scotts smiling at me since i wasn't expecting anyone else except mei.
Hong came in couple of mins later after jia and our gathering was completed with mei arriving in just a little while. Nice simple dinner completed with a cup of warm coffee. Simplicity is beauty after all and the simplest pleasures in life can be so uplifting for our spirits. Updated one another with recent and not-so-recent happenings and most of our conversation revolved around our travels. =) Nice catching up, we should do it more often. =)
Btw mei, nice gift! It's the first time i received a gift of that colour. You are one of those people that doesn't fail to surprise. =) And ya, how can i not write something for hong and jia as well? Thanks for the little surprise you gave me at Borders. It's awfully nice of you both. =)
On thurs when i meet up with Qin, i got another surprise. Yup, qin gave me a gift that a guy like me could never have guessed it coming. Total surprise for me once again! Haha, i'm not gonna put down what are the gifts that i have gotten so far from mei and qin. You can go ahead and guess all you want. =P
Anyway, back to it. Gotten dinner with qin at Eclectic Attic, it's a small concept store on level 5 of Plaza Singapura (besides Spotlight) selling very unique furnitures and accessories. Food is reasonably priced and most importantly, thumbs up for the service and the ambient! Nice and cosy. Nice easy evening with qin and did quite a bit of catching up as well. Qin, thanks again for the surprise! =)
Additional thanks - 14th Oct
Just a bit of editing to do on this post. Like to give my thanks and gratitude to another 4 persons for their lovely gift. They are qiang, hao, mark and yin. Gift came right in just when i was about to get a similiar one myself. Couldn't have it at a better timing than this. Thanks fellas! =)
Wednesday 11 October 2006
Monday 2 October 2006
爱还是被爱, 誰比較幸福?
It happened several times, mostly during small talks with friends. Not too sure how such remarks came about but it sort of left an impression on me since it was not the first time i heard such remarks.
Quite a number of them commented that i was likely to be on the losing end if i ever end up in a relationship since i'm not a very dominating guy. Yes, they think i'll be bullied (if you want to hear it in a layman's term). I find it funny though as i felt that there is no such thing as a losing party in a relationship. Afterall, everyone grows in the journey of life even though at times we can be quite blind to our own growth and that of others.
One of my colleagues, a working mum, said to me, "You are just like my son, the type that will get bullied by the wife if you ever get married." She continued, "You better get someone who loves you more than you love her. That's what i always reminded my son." Naturally, i asked why? For record sake, her rationale behind her reasoning ~ it is always more fortunate to be loved than to love.
How true is that? Do you agree with my colleague? Sorry if i seemed a little distracted over the weekend but i was pondering over it. I'm sure everyone has an answer just like me ~ at the bottom of our hearts. It's all within us, though some of us may take sometime to find it while some like me just need to reaffirm the presence of this answer that we knew all along was there.
Reflecting on my past and looking at the people in front of me, i think the more fortunate party is the one who is able to love. If i can and if i will, i wish to love more than to be loved even when it means that i may have to endure a little more in the relationship. It may seem a little silly but when we think carefully, it is not silly at all and it might be the most logical thought we may ever have.
When we truly love a person, we do want the person whom we love to be well and happy without any conditions attached. We will also very much like to know that our loved ones are feeling as blissful as they can ever be and they know they are being loved as much as they ever deserved to. Afterall, we cannot be happy if our loved ones are not well and happy. My greatest joy in life does not come from my own happiness (don't be mistaken, i'm still happy when i'm happy) but rather it comes from the knowledge that my loved ones are well and happy.
I'm not saying that it will be a bed of roses if we all think that way. (Sometimes, i don't even how to begin to show my care and concern for people, i can be quite inept at showing my feelings) Nobody's perfect but as long as i know that i have such a mentality, i will be more mindful of my actions and so less likely to hurt the people i care for. If i ever hurt you in anyway, please forgive me as i really never meant to in the very first place.
Quite a number of them commented that i was likely to be on the losing end if i ever end up in a relationship since i'm not a very dominating guy. Yes, they think i'll be bullied (if you want to hear it in a layman's term). I find it funny though as i felt that there is no such thing as a losing party in a relationship. Afterall, everyone grows in the journey of life even though at times we can be quite blind to our own growth and that of others.
One of my colleagues, a working mum, said to me, "You are just like my son, the type that will get bullied by the wife if you ever get married." She continued, "You better get someone who loves you more than you love her. That's what i always reminded my son." Naturally, i asked why? For record sake, her rationale behind her reasoning ~ it is always more fortunate to be loved than to love.
How true is that? Do you agree with my colleague? Sorry if i seemed a little distracted over the weekend but i was pondering over it. I'm sure everyone has an answer just like me ~ at the bottom of our hearts. It's all within us, though some of us may take sometime to find it while some like me just need to reaffirm the presence of this answer that we knew all along was there.
Reflecting on my past and looking at the people in front of me, i think the more fortunate party is the one who is able to love. If i can and if i will, i wish to love more than to be loved even when it means that i may have to endure a little more in the relationship. It may seem a little silly but when we think carefully, it is not silly at all and it might be the most logical thought we may ever have.
When we truly love a person, we do want the person whom we love to be well and happy without any conditions attached. We will also very much like to know that our loved ones are feeling as blissful as they can ever be and they know they are being loved as much as they ever deserved to. Afterall, we cannot be happy if our loved ones are not well and happy. My greatest joy in life does not come from my own happiness (don't be mistaken, i'm still happy when i'm happy) but rather it comes from the knowledge that my loved ones are well and happy.
I'm not saying that it will be a bed of roses if we all think that way. (Sometimes, i don't even how to begin to show my care and concern for people, i can be quite inept at showing my feelings) Nobody's perfect but as long as i know that i have such a mentality, i will be more mindful of my actions and so less likely to hurt the people i care for. If i ever hurt you in anyway, please forgive me as i really never meant to in the very first place.
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